Silver RavenWolf – Day 9 – Wednesday – 9 December 2015 – Great Release Challenge – Five Stages of Grief


Silver Ravenwolf

2015 Great Release Program
Day 9 – December 9 2015
by Silver RavenWolf

Every day you must throw or give something away!

Wednesday
4th Quarter Moon Void Most of Day (Banishing!)
Moon Moves into Sagittarius in the early afternoon/evening depending upon your time zone

Ideal Planetary Hour for Magick — Jupiter Hour for Sagittarius Energy –
Mercury Hour for the Ruler of the Day

This Week’s Theme:  Peace in the Moment

The Foundation —  Begin your day with the Braucherei Morning cleansing and empowerment exercise (please view first post of the program ).

This Week’s Theme — Peace in the Moment

This week we are going to practice Peace in the Moment — where each day you will pause for at least fifteen seconds (more if you can) filling your mind with white light and breathing deeply.  Hold that white light as long as you can — when a thought crosses your mind…any thought…the exercise is completed.  There is no wrong way to do this — white light…hold…hold…hold (remember to breathe deeply)…you’re done. If you like, continue to use the Peace Prayer in your daily activities (located in Day 2 of the program).  When you have finished with this week’s theme exercise, move on to today’s fun activities!

Silver’s Notes — The Process of Grief

Each year the Release Program focuses on letting go of physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual negativity that clings to the self.  By practicing magickal and physical techniques, it is hoped that the program helps you to cope and move forward in a positive way.  Grief just isn’t about the loss of a loved one — it can be centered on issues of divorce, child custody, a relationship break-up, a job loss, the loss of a pet, a miscarriage, retiring by choice or by force, the loss of a friendship, your family home, a specific way of life (children leaving the nest, loss of significant income that forces you to change direction in life, or the loss of your home), or an attack on your character that ultimately takes away your self-esteem or your income, or a debilitating illness begins to rob the self of mobility and therefore takes away our freedoms…sigh…

A pretty long list.

Most of us have heard about the five stages of grief as set forth by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross.  “In 1969, psychiatrist Elisabeth Kübler-Ross introduced what became known as the “five stages of grief.” These stages of grief were based on her studies of the feelings of patients facing terminal illness, but many people have generalized them to other types of negative life changes and losses, such as the death of a loved one or a break-up.” —http://www.helpguide.org/articles/grief-loss/coping-with-grief-and-loss.htm

These stages are Denial (the world seems meaningless or overwhelming); Anger (lashing out because your real feelings are being denied, and the person feels lonely and abandoned or the intensity of their love burns with hatred for the loss); Bargaining (an endless plethora of mindless “what-if” self questioning); Depression (withdrawal from the world); and lastly, Acceptance (which is not “everything is okay now” — it is adjusting to a new way of living.

Not everyone goes through all the stages, nor do the steps always fan out in a prescribed order.  Grief, like everything else in the human condition — is unique.  Some people feel waves of feelings with highs and lows, where others may experience one stage full force, then somehow skip to the last step, then fall back to the second stage… the ways of experiencing grief are as individuals as yourself.  How long does the grief process last?  There is no firm answer due to the individuality of the circumstances.  Some say roughly a year — others perhaps two; but, even those numbers are not necessarily indicative of the time frame.  

The best way to handle grief is to face your feelings, and then express those emotions creatively through art, music, or other activities that envelope the mind, body and spirit with new, pleasant experiences.  It is also important, during your time of grief, to take care of your physical health, as ignoring it can lead to bigger problems that will complicate the healing process, adding to the misery of the grief experience. 

Grief, then, is a stressor that if not dealt with, can lead to larger problems that not only affect ourselves; but, also those around us in negative ways.  The minions of grief — Shock, Sadness, Guilt, Anger, Fear — can lead to abuse, major crime, discrimination, social imbalance, and war.

No one can tell you when to let your grief “go” — because it doesn’t really GO anywhere — if given its space, it heals and changes the self into a different, unique individual.  It is because of your grief  and the process of dealing with it that you can change and grow into an amazing and empowered person.  Out of grief some of the most incredible advancements on our planet have been made — and it is out of grief that some of our most despicable moments in history were born.

In the end — you choose.  The garden of light?  Or the box of hate.  When you come right down to it?  Most magickal seekers are individuals who have suffered some sort of intense grief — and out of that loss, have chosen to move forward in creativity and light with an open mind, rather than fall back into the dogma of the darkened box.

It is okay to grieve.
And…
It is okay to grow.

Magickal practices, such as spells, rituals, vision quests, shamanic harmonics, and acts of honor can help us to cope with our loss and move forward into the new experience of life wherein that which we loved — is lost (at least in the reality of the moment).  These activities can be a life-line steering us in the direction of comfort, love, healing, and accomplishment.  Most magickal people, I believe, have a strong sense of continuance — wherein we believe that something or someone is not LOST; but, changed in energy form.  With that concept — that nothing every really dies, that it merely changes form — we hold the wisdom that we must change as well to meet the new day.

Today’s Magickal Challenge

Today we’re going to study the Dag/Dagaz Rune.  You can apply the rune to your life using come of the exercises in previous posts; or, today you can consume the rune into your life by baking cookies, a pie, a cake, brownies, etc., and decorating them with the Dag Rune.  After they are cool, intone the name of the rune 9 times, then eat one of the cookies, the piece of cake, the brownie, etc, and as you chew — focus on the power of that rune and acknowledge that you are ingesting that power.  This technique was presented to the magickal community by Freya Aswynn, wherein she ate all the runes, one per day, contemplating on the power of the ingested rune.  I have had the pleasure of meeting Freya and spending enjoyable time with her.  Her technique absolutely works.

Dagaz Dag Silver RavenWolf

When you have completed baking and eating your rune, turn to your altar and white a light candle.  Intone the Braucherei Healer’s Prayer 9 times at your altar.  When you fill your field with healing light — you fill the world.

Today’s Physical Challenge 

The Moon is Void a great deal of the day encouraging the completion of normal, daily tasks.  Use your physical challenge time today to catch-up on anything you have missed in the program (magickal or physical), or do a task you need to finish by Yule, Hanukkah, or Christmas.

Today’s Summary

Practice the Peace in the Moment Exercise.

Repeat the Peace Prayer and practice the Star Throw Blessing if you like.

Contemplate the Grief Process in Your Life — We all have had (or are having) grief experiences.

Bake cookies, brownies, cake, pie — and inscribe the Dag/Daguz rune on the treat.  Eat the Rune, considering the power of that sigil.

Light a White Candle and Send the Braucherei Healer’s Prayer to the World

Catch-up any on any physical tasks.

Throw or give one thing away (most important task)

Don’t forget to add the coins to your Joy Jar!

Sleep well and see ya in the morning!

Peace with the Gods
Peace with Nature
Peace Within!

Silver

Please Note:  If you are feeling any of the following as a result of a grief experience:  Fatigue, Nausea, Weight fluctuation, Aches, Pains, Insomnia, Intense Longing, Intrusive Images, Thoughts of Suicide, Extreme anger, Avoiding things that remind you of loss, Slow speech or body movements, Intense Guilt, or are having an inability to function in daily life — please, please, please seek assistance from a qualified healthcare individual. To read more:

Get Help Here:

http://www.helpguide.org/articles/depression/depression-signs-and-symptoms.htm

Suicide Help:

call 1-800-273-TALK

http://www.crowcrossroads.etsy.com

http://www.spellcandlecompany.wordpress.com

http://www.silverravenwolf.info

http://twitter.com/silverravenwolf

20 thoughts on “Silver RavenWolf – Day 9 – Wednesday – 9 December 2015 – Great Release Challenge – Five Stages of Grief”

  1. Dear Silver, this post really touched me. I did my Braucherei Morning Ritual, while driving to work. And Today, I prayed for my friends which are ill and Need help. And what you wrote is so true. And thank you for the Special advise, that persons, which have Problems consults an Expert. I did this with my friend. There was a Break-up in the relashionship and then People always seeking the Problems in them self and always this analaysing, and if this was, and if this. I was very hard at this Moment and said, your Partner is not interested anymore, face the truth. There is no “If my Partner Comes back!” One day…… It is very hard, but it is better to face the truth and contact an Expert. Mostly there is one sentence given by an Expert which Change the complete life and set a new direction. Thank you for this post. Regards, Kristina

  2. I think you included a very important and helpful piece for me today – sacred grief. Thank you!

  3. Hi Silver and everyone. Many thanks to you for doing the Great Release program again this year! It helps make December bearable, lol. The idea that I am grieving hit me hard this morning, apparently I was in denial about it😦 There have been many changes over the last couple years and although some are positive in the long run (moving to a farm & learning to farm sustainably) there have been losses. Friends, the way of life that was familiar. Also deaths of friends, my father in law, watching my own father slip deeper into Alzheimer’s & dementia. The stresses have taken a heavy toll on my marriage, don’t know if we will make it. I thought I was handling this all pretty well, clearly I was wrong. Today starts new. Thanks for listening, Blessed Be .

    1. I very much understand. We also moved three years ago into a new way of life after my father’s death (dementia). There were losses of friends and the death of a covenmate. You will make it.

  4. Today was a bit scattered. Did the Morning Ritual and then realized I am still grieving over many things that have happened in the last few years – a move from the city to the countryside, missing my old way of life, the passing of my mother and my mother-in-law, the loss of my business and my husband losing his job, my only sister moving away a few weeks ago. however I realised that when so many things and people leave my life there are new things and new people coming in. New possibilities, new friends, new opportunities. I need to be open to the new, be thankful for what I already have and in that way I can continue on and rebuild my life. On the mundane level cleaned high shelves in the kitchen and got another item out of the house. Onwards and upwards!

  5. I just realized today that I haven’t been doing the weekly theme, so I spent some time with that. It kind of reminds me of loving-kindness practice🙂 and I love little things like this that you can add in anywhere during your day….all those little moments of waiting we have throughout the day (actually I find tying my practice of things to those little moments helps me to remember to do them sometimes more than trying to set aside special time for them)

    My project for today is to go through my old magazines (that I save for clipping pictures and words for art), organize them, and do some major clipping. I am going to be doing some collage and found word poetry for Yule presents, and need to get a start on that (why do I always seem to start making presents only a week or two ahead of time…hehe).

    I think that the information and suggestions with Grief are excellent. Grief is one of those things that is so hard for people to deal with because it hits so hard and is so personal (and different for each person), but I also think that working with and through grief can be a very powerful thing. Even the conscious act of expressing our grief fully can be very necessary….even if you have to cry it out in the shower where no one can hear/see you. I am highly empathetic and it is very easy for me to get overwhelmed, so emotion work in all it’s forms is something I do a lot of.

    I very recently got new breakthrough with Dagaz, and seeing how it is so transformative. I have always understood it to have the ‘a brand new day’ message (and I love that message…that each moment is a fresh start is huge!), but now I see it as also being that moment where fortunes can completely turn around. Dagaz reminds me that we can have these giant tides in our lives but they are often formed by a mountain of small actions..the ordinary things we do in our everyday lives that all add up to something so much more.

  6. I have been going back over the days that I didn’t feel I completed. Rereading about grief made me realize I have been grieving. My youngest, 16, has an undiagnosed illness. For the last 2 years he’s been fatigued, which lead to depression. I was so proud when he came to us for help, even prouder that he does the work the psychiatrist gives him. Before this happened he was loving life, school, and marching band. He is unable to attend school or do marching band now. I grieve for the boy he was, and the man he dreamed he would be. Since he was young he dreamed of being an Officer in the Marines. He still hopes we get answers and a cure so he can fulfill that dream. We have helped him look at other dreams for his future, one that will fit with his fatigue. He is so fiercely independent! He’s trying to get a job he can manage so he can buy his own car. He doesn’t want to be a burden once he’s an adult, so he is exploring ideas for his new future. The hardest thing is I tend to do well as a healer, yet nothing I’ve tried has helped him. I know I’ve done my best, it still hurts. So now I am working on a ritual for me to express this grief and try and move past it. Once again I can not express my gratitude for you enough!

    1. I have also written the Braucherei Healer’s Prayer on 2 index cards to carry with me and use when I need.
      Love and light,
      SilverFox

    2. Could you give us your son’s initials? Then we can work for him. Or, you can convo me on Etsy (remind me who you are – I get a lot of business e-mails). I have found that sometimes, we are too close to an issue and when we work, we are so filled with fear that we are lighting up the wrong energy to fully help with the problem. When a group works, it can be marvelous, as long as everyone stays on the same page — meaning we would say something like: Healing for so-and-so in the best way possible for him.

      1. I forgot to make sure I got e-mail notices for my post. My Son’s initials are J.A.M. We finally got the Doctor appointment we were waiting for. They are Research Doctors, who will be looking outside the box, and have more knowledge on tests for diseases. This program has helped lift my house! He even seems better spiritually if not physically. Thank you!
        Love and Light,
        SilverFox

  7. To Whom It May Concern,

    I was searching for some articles about depression today and I came across your page.

    I noticed that you linked to one of my favourite articles: http://www.helpguide.org/articles/depression/depression-signs-and-symptoms.htm

    Just wanted to give you a heads up that I just wrote a similar one. It’s like the article on helpguide.org, but more thorough and up to date: https://inspireyourselflc.org/depression-signs-symptoms-causes-test-treatment/

    Might be worth a mention on your page.

    Either way, keep up the great work!

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