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How I Deal With Big Problems

How I Deal With Big Problems

by Silver RavenWolf

A friend of mine, G. T. Long,  recently posted this on my Facebook wall:

THE THREE GOALS: The first goal is to see the thing itself in and for itself, to see it simply and clearly for what it is. No symbolism, please. The second goal is to see each individual thing as unified, as one, with all the other ten thousand things. In this regard, a little wine helps a lot. The third goal is to grasp the first and second goals, to see the universal and the particular, simultaneously. regarding this one, call me when you get it.

I smiled.  This week has been a plethora of activity due to the family dementia patient.  Even though I’m used to the routine by now, that doesn’t always mean I’m on top of my mental game.  The energy of this type of person (dementia, Alzheimer’s) within the confines of the household does affect the group mind (of the family).  Its nice when friends realize your brain isn’t functioning the best, and let you know by giving you gifts of knowledge to think about.  Like G.T.’s post.  Sometimes, we so separate things in order to deal with them that we forget that even though this seems to be a singular problem — everything is somehow tied to everything else.  Yes, we can delineate the problem in an effort to solve it; yet — in essence, that difficulty is either affected by something else or affects issues that don’t seem to have an apparent connection.  Its like a puzzle where you put that key piece in wrong.  It fits, but it doesn’t.  You have to take that piece out, and look at it from a different point of view.  You may realize that it isn’t the right piece at all (or the real problem) and that something else fits there better.

So, separate to remove the emotional drama, THEN combine to reach the desired conclusion.

I think, really, separation is the hard part.  There can be so much emotional garbage to it, you know?  In Alchemy, we learn to “separate the gross from the fine” — which is what G.T. is saying.  Haul the crap out to the curb, and then look at the situation with fresh eyes.  So, how do we do that separation part and still get some sleep at night because the monkey-mind is picking the fleas, one, by one, by one, out of the problem?

Sometimes, for me, the best way to dispose of the stinky mind stuff is to turn my thoughts in a totally different direction.  I’ll either immerse myself in a craft project (I created another doll), or try an activity I’ve never done before (I so want to go zip lining one of these days) or do something as totally mindless as a video game (Zuma and Mario Cart Racing are my favorites).  Regardless, if I can move away from brain-squeezing the problem, then later, I seem to be able to deal with it on a different footing.  I can take the pain-power out of the problem, and move forward.

What if you have trouble seeing the “real” problem?  I like to cast the runes on the dining room table while drinking a cup of tea.  I ask what the root energy is, and then I ask what root energy will be lead me in the right direction.

Then, I’m ready to do the magick!


How about you?


Llewellyn Author of over 23 magickally enchanting books. Braucherei practitioner. Artist, photographer, quilter, chandler, doll maker and lover of genealogy. Visit her WhisperMagick online shoppe at

7 thoughts on “How I Deal With Big Problems

  1. Perfect timing. Going through the same type of thing. My training has taught me to do just what you have mentioned – but yes, you have to realize the monkey mind is nit picking you to death. No sleep, all of the “what if this and what if that’s”, then you start prophessing how you know the outcome will turn out, when you’re still in monkey mind. This is dangerous. Because then your surroundings become what you’re thinking about. Then the aha moment . . . “you are killing yourself with worry” and your training kicks in and you turn into a work-aholic to stop feeling the stress”. Then, the individual pieces start popping into your mind and you start seeing the connection. Sometimes Witches forget that they’re fighting bitches, after all. And you start working the magick and take on the mindset of . . . “I’ll be damned”. Then you’re in amazing mode. 😉

  2. I do the same THING with Runes or Tarot! With a fast moving, interconnected, ever-changing Universe its the quickest route to ask, “Whats the bottom-friggin line here?” and “What curtain do I pick to get things moving, Jack?”. Otherwise I can see most situations from so many different angles without nailing it, I make myself a wreck. But lets look at whats happening there. By stepping out of emotion and asking what to do we are starting the process of surrendering OUR solutions and making room for the GODS solutions.

  3. What do u mean by no symbolism? Dont over analyze or dont try to intrepret an underlying meaning? (Or both)

  4. Whenever I start to get anxious and full of worry I get an e-mail for something new in your blog, and it helps me to deal with my big problems step by step instead of guessing what it is and working magick for the wrong problem, but the universe has a habit of letting me know that I am working for the wrong thing too. and yes, then I think too that I am a fighter, I am a witch, I can do this shit! Thanks for the pick-me-up!

  5. When issues in my life get to be to overwhelming, I pick up my guitar and I play. After playing guitar, I pick up a pencil and draw. After playing like a child for 4 or 5 hours, life looks very different. Now I can trust myself and I can make magic.

  6. Thankyou so much for sharing! I will work on that as one of my daughters has been in jail for a year now (Dessiree) and I have recently lost my father in law from dementia last year and now my husbends family is fighting over the land. Thank the Goddess and God Dad had a will! So I am going to immerse myself in some positive construction now. In fact with that being said I am going to take my first spring walk to the lake and look at the beauty around me. BB

  7. My 19 yr old daughter has been diagnoised as Bi-polar & depresive. She has trouble sorting out reality from her exagerated imagination.
    I have Multiply Scorious (MS) which has added to her coping problems and the household stress.
    My spouse has been laid off since May 2011.He is 52.(Which adds to eveyones stress)
    My 19 year old is an Athestist and I have a 16 yr. old daughter who is an Aggnostic. Both young women where raised as Wiccans. I still see glimpes of Spiritualality in them, but I know not to point it out.
    I talk to the Goddess & God & they talk to me. Things are difficult, but you are right about removing yourself from the drama.”A Place of No Pitty” as Carlos Constanta would say…

    I have learned to just take it ons day at a time & “TO BE HERE NOW” easier said then done: but I think I’m getting better at it. 🙂

    Blessings to all!

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